As we are preparing for our big day, I have been surfing
bridal forums alot. The process of wedding preparation is fun but getting a
little stressful, as we started counting down to the day. I am glad my friend added me into the bride-to-be
2013 secret facebook group where ladies shared information and ideas. It helped
cut down on the time needed for doing research and it has been a great
platform to share excitements among fellow brides.
Girls being girls, there will be lots of gossiping. Like mother-in-law
stories, calling off wedding due to disagreement in wedding preparations, husband
change in attitude after marriage etc. For one, I came across a thread that
talks about inviting the ex.
Fortunately or unfortunately, most wedding couples are not
each other’s first love. With the wedding bells ringing and the announcement of
the nuptial date, it is time to send out the invites.
That sets me thinking. Will you be affected if your partner’s
ex is attending your wedding? It is a fact that he/she came before you. They were
once a happy couple and shared many beautiful memories. Sure enough, they may
have broken up long ago and had already moved on, but inviting an ex may stir
up all kinds of anxieties.
In my opinion, I think that once people become lovers, it is
almost impossible to revert back to a platonic friendship. Even if there is
really nothing going on between your partner and the ex, tongues may still
wiggle among friends. So, why not save the trouble and omit having the presence
of an ex who is a huge reminder of the past and a bad breakup, from hanging
around in a ballroom? Moreover, the most important person on your wedding day
is your groom/bride. Why risk making your better half, who you will be
spending the rest of your life with, unhappy?
A wedding celebration should involve guests that the couple
feels comfortable with. After all, weddings are happy occasions and having an
ex around not only spoilt the fun but also make it feels like a less than
prefect matrimony.
As such, I think love is selfish. It is an intertwined relationship
between two persons, only two. Ex-es should not be allowed.