Caught in between

I was reading on the train yesterday morning when a group of aunties swam in at the next stop. Among them, there was a lady carrying two big bags and she placed it very near to my legs. She was very wobbly when the train started moving and so, I offered my seat to her. Surprisingly, she rejected my offer!!! How could she!!! Hmmm… She would rather collapse on the train than to admit she is ancient and take up my spot?? Very stubborn!!!

Hmmm…that’s not the thing I feel like writing, because I want to write about serious stuff. What you are about to read are very complicated stories, 100% true, and no part of those stories had been altered. They are written based on my encounters and my personal opinions.

This is how it begins. JP and WZ was a couple for two years. JL and GY like each other. JP and JL are my good guy friends but I do not know WZ or GY, even though I knew they are my friends’ girlfriends. JP and JL are also friends but, they are not exactly close or familiar with each other.

As for me, I am a not-so-happy-individual recently as I already had enough problems to settle by myself. Their problems are trivial as compared to mine. At least that’s how I view it. Mine would be a mega huge problem, even deity cannot solve. If you know me well enough, you might understand what that means.

Somehow recently, I was told by both JP and JL than my presences had threatened the relationship between them and their girlfriends. WTH… How did I get myself caught between not one, but two couples?? I didn’t know my life could be entangled in such a mess. There were already problems between both couples, but I feel that I was being dragged into the picture innocently.

Let me tell you the story one by one.

Story 1

JL had been going after GY for as long as I know him, and they were not exactly a couple yet. He had been doing and giving many things to her, and obviously JL is very much in love with GY. I got to know JL when I started my research work in the school last year and I was in the same laboratory as him. We got to know each other really well as we could simply speak our mind and there isn’t a need to filter what we really wanted to say.

In fact, we became really good buddies and he had also been asking some advices from me regarding chasing GY. He had been very honest with GY when he went out with me but somehow, GY was not too happy that JL went out with another girl.

Just not too long ago, GY wanted to return everything that JL had given her. She cannot tolerate JL going out with me; in fact, she cannot tolerate JL spending time with anyone else except her. According to JL, GY wanted to return everything he had given after she was told about the outing to vivo with me the other day.

As for me, I went to vivo with JL because he was extremely bored that Sunday and asked if I was free to accompany him to buy some things. You might say I am contradicting myself because I used to mention that girls only go out with guys one-to-one if they are interested in them. Wrong!!!

I do not mind going out with JL one-to-one because I already know who he love and we were very good friends. Moreover, given my current status, it will not cause any misunderstanding at all.

The problem here is that GY jumped into conclusion too quickly and she does not know me. If JL can be so honest with her, she should know that she is the one on his mind, and any other girls cannot be a threat. She felt threaten because she had no confidence in JL, thus she would rather keep him to herself all the time. Very stubborn!!!

In this entire incident, I was innocently dragged into their problem…. Is it not right on my part to befriend a guy friend, or is GY too sensitive??


Story 2

By chance, JP and I were in the same lecture for one of the modules. He did not have any friend in the class and so, Ash introduced him to me. From that day on, he was sitting with me for that module because I am his only friend.

Our friendship was well and all for the past one year until 2 days ago, I got a call from him which stunned me totally. He asked me to call his girlfriend, WZ to explain things…

I was quite puzzled when I called her, and I had also least expected WZ to tell me so many things that I had never known. From her words, JP was never honest with her regarding who he meets, or who he talked to on the phone or MSN. (I had chat with him and had also gone out one-to-one with him.)

That was the root of the misunderstanding. WZ was disappointed that JP had not come clean with his behaviors as he had prohibit WZ to go out one-to-one with her guy friends, but JP had done so without telling her.

The reason why she had misunderstood me and JP was due to the fact that WZ was suspicious of JP and wanted to check on him. She admitted that she had asked around her friends about me and him and also read the MSN conversations between us on his laptop. I cannot remember which one was that, but she said it was regarding a dinner we had planned at yishun. (Ash was aware of that too!! But in the end, she didn’t go)

On top of that, she felt that JP is no longer as patient as he used to, and no longer send her home. He would say that he had no time for her when she found out that he was busy having dinner with other girls, including me. She had seen my picture and found me attractive. (Which picture was that??!!)

So, I asked if she would mind if I was a guy. I explained to her that I felt nothing unusual about the friendship from my side and I treated him as a friend and he will always be. I didn’t want our friendship to turn sour just because of her, as we are fully aware of each other’s status.

WZ was convinced. She told me I was a nice person, and she believed my words, even though that would not change the fate of their relationship. (I am still wondering what she meant…) She thinks that as a boyfriend, JP shouldn’t hide anything if there is really nothing going on.

I told her not to let go of a relationship too easily just because of some misunderstandings, because they are solvable. 2 years is a long time and those moments shared must be cherished. Only when the problems are huge, where love cannot triumph over, than maybe one should consider giving up.

This is just a brief summary about our conversation. I actually called her and we talked for 2 hours, when I don’t even know her!!

I agree and disagree to some of her words and actions, but don’t you think that I have been innocently dragged into this as well?? Is JP a lousy boyfriend, or is WZ too demanding??


You see in the two stories, one chose to be honest and that had lead to trouble. The other chose to lie, but it also leads to trouble. What’s the problem then?? If you are someone else’s girlfriend, how would you want your boyfriend to be??

There is a saying - I can give you the wealth of the world but still it will not make you as happy as love. And I think it's true.