Dots

I thought I was thoughtful, caring and all until I was slapped back into reality. I am uncaring, lousy, insensitive and a dumbass, fool-of-the-century. I am full of flaws with flabby arms and thighs, and my mentality is just ancient. I am imperfect and I cost no more than that wrecked car in the garage. I was so depressed when I concluded something like that…

Well, I am not here to condemn myself, and I never will. Those that you have seen are just my flaws and not the entire picture. I recalled reading this story a few months back, and I thought it would be a good way to let you understand the message I am trying to convey.


A woman have had enough of her husband and stormed into the lawyer’s office, demanding for a divorce.

Woman (W): I’ve had enough, I can no longer live with him and I want a divorce!!!

Lawyer (L): Calm down, my lady. I’ve heard enough of such case and I am sure you do it in the spite of anger. Let’s do a little test to see if I can change your mind.

The lawyer took from his drawer, a pen and paper and placed it in front of the lady.

L: Draw a circle. For every flaw you see in him, put a dot in the circle.

The lady picked up the pen and started doting impatiently into the circle, and by the end of 10 minutes, she was tired. She flung the pen back onto the table and starred at the paper.

L: What do you see now??

W: What else?? A circle full of dots!!

The lawyer nodded and smile.

L: What else can you see??

The lady hesitated and picked up the piece of paper. She figured it out for a while, placed it back onto the table and looked at the lawyer.

W: There is white spacing in between the dots.

L: That’s right!! There are indeed lots of dots in the circle, and those represent his flaws. But look again, between those dots, the white spacing shows the goodness that you have initially overlooked. No one can be a perfectly clean circle.

The End.


It depends on where you wish to focus your attention on - the dots or the clear spacing.

But adding on to the story, I guess it also depends on how big you are willing to draw my circle. The bigger the circle, the less significant the dots would be, and the more goodness you can see in me. I am not perfect, and I never will be.

Alright, I should stop making excuses to get a bigger circle. Perhaps for some of you, my circle is so small and full of dots, I am just a solid black dot and nothing more than that. I may not be able to remove those dots, but I will change for the better. I promise.

Maybe I should end my story a little differently today.

“I lived happily ever after….”


P/S: To rus, yes I want to get married, but whether I eventually do is another thing. And whether I get married and get a divorce is a whole new thing. It doesn’t matter whether it is “We” or “I”, the main point is to “live happily ever after”. Make sense??